Lifestyle, Relationships

What Guys Need to Remember When They’re On Dating Apps

Dating in this modern world is summed up in one word: v difficult ( or two words in RaeChow language). Most people seem to wrap themselves in this notion that we need to play games in order for someone to notice us or to stay intrigued. If you think about it, most people categorize dating as a game of who can play it better. Who can wait longer to text back or who can come off as not caring most–because playing “hard to get” is apparently what wins people over. Let me tell you: Ain’t nobody got time for that, especially when there are hundreds of fishes in the sea and you need to pick just one in time for Thanksgiving Dinner.

Like any twenty-something-year-old in this day and age, I decided to download one of the many dating apps. Honestly, no shame in that game because if you aren’t on one you’re considered an outcast. Obviously meeting someone “organically” when you are out or through friends is the kosher way to do it, but I live in New York City and there are just too many damn people who would rather drop a line behind their phone than at the bar.

Photo: @t_reel_

Through my interactions on the app, I’ve learned so much about what I like, what I am looking for, and more importantly why first impressions and your digital footprint is SO important. And ya know, I met some cool people I suppose…

Keeping the above in mind, it is crucial for you guys to think about what you put on your profiles. This includes everything from what you say and how you say things, to what type of pictures you are putting up. Of course girls have to be conscious as well but this is a post about you guys so let’s stick with that. Hear me out.

If you are a guy and are swiping on one of these apps and come across a profile of a woman who you find attractive and she seems like she has her shit together, you swipe right. Plain and simple right? A couple of hours later you get notification that IT’S A MATCH– score. But now comes the hard part, what the hell do you say? There is so much involved in the first message because honestly there are probably at least 10 other guys messaging the woman of your dreams, so you better be dropping a damn good line.

So now that we’ve agreed that the first line can essentially make or break if this entire potential relationship, a.k.a if she answers you, it is crucial that this line is a mixture of sexy/cool/interesting/relevant….etc. Personally, I gravitate towards guys who drop a witty/clever line. Enough for me to think “oh wow, that’s good.”

Photo: t_reel_

So here are five things to keep in mind when you are talking to someone on a dating app:

  • Say something more than “Hey, How are you?”- because honestly what do you expect us to say back? Hey, good and you? #snooze. Try something that’s relevant to her pictures or bio. You’ll come off a hell of lot more interesting and she’ll prob notice that you actually took the time to look through her pictures and bio.
  • Are you going to just leave us on hold here? *Match ends in 2 hours*- Of course there aren’t any rules to whether a guy or girl should be initiating conversation and quite honestly I think most women should initiate… however, I’m not like most woman ( hah). Let me break it down for you, most women like to be pursued, they like when guys *swoon* them and leave them *smitten*.  Have you ever watched a romantic comedy? C’mon, try and keep up here.
  • Get her number already- Historically, and when I say historically, I mean amongst my friends, guys take F O R E V E R to ask for a girls number if they even ask at all. No one is trying to just chat on this app anyway, so take the initiative and ask for her number bc you’ll probably want to text her instead of opening the glitchy app to see if she answered your message. Dating apps are for streamlining the dating process, emphasis on the ‘dating’ portion of that. So, cut the crap and focus on less app time and more dating.
  • Let’s get on with the first date- If you made it to getting her number – props, now finish the deal and plan a date. No one,and I mean no one wants a pen pal or someone to just text during the day without meeting. If you don’t have any intentions of ever meeting this person you matched, small talked and exchanged numbers with, then what are you doing on this app anyway?
  • Don’t lie about stupid things– A friend once told me she had a guy tell her that he lives in an apartment with two friends and then the next thing she knows on their date he’s telling her how he lives at home. Honestly, we don’t care but we remember those inconsistencies and if you can’t even tell the truth of something little in the beginning of a relationships you’re just setting yourself up for failure in the future.

I also decided to include some tips from my favorite gal pals…

  • “Not everyone on a dating app is looking for a casual hookup. Some people want to foster a real relationship with someone. If your end game is hooking up make sure that is clear to the girl and you’re on the same page. Don’t waste each other’s time by taking her out and throwing a hissy fit when you ask her to go back to your place  and she declines. (Personally if I would so easily have sex with strangers, I wouldn’t be doing it for free”- 24 yr old, Long Island
  • “First off, STOP uploading photos of you with hot chicks in bikinis. No one wants to see a potential partner smothered by slutty girls. Second, it’s great that you seem to be living at the gym, I totally support your healthy life choices, but no one needs to see a bunch of topless bathroom selfies. Some things are just better seen in person. Lastly, everyone can look great even at their worst with sunglasses on. But they’ll have to come off at some point. Don’t show me pictures of you wearing your shades in every photo.”- 26 yr old, Brooklyn
  • “Your sarcasm and witty banter attempts rarely translate”- 25 yr old, Upper East Side
  • “Guys needing to know that girls have a million group chats going on at once and we love to share. You should keep that in mind when talking to multiple girls off dating apps because I once had 2 friends talking to the same guy from Bumble and they realized via group chat that he was sending them both unwarranted dick pics, no thanks”- 28 yr old, Astoria
  • “Don’t give a girl your number and tell her to text you. You should ask for her number and if she wants you to text her then she’ll do it”- 25 yr old, Tribeca

 

In the end, the dating world typically takes some work. You’ll need to put in a good amount of effort at the beginning, and while that can suck, the girls typically have it way worse down the line in the relationship. You need to set the stage, we’ll take care of the rest. Even if you follow the guidelines above that doesn’t necessarily mean you will win the girl, but it’ll probably help. It all comes down to the chemistry that you either do or don’t have with that person. Take your time with dating, trust me we don’t know what the hell we are doing half the time either–hey look you have something in common with your latest match after all.

PS: Hear me ramble more about my NYC living on my good friend Justin Buddy Love’s new podcast “How to Survive in the City”


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Ask & You Shall Receive

Photo: @t_reel_

We’re all guilty of it. We beat around the bush because we are too scared or embarrassed to say what we actually want and how we actually feel. But why? Life is already hard to navigate through so why do we feel it’s necessary to clutter up life with even more vagueness?

Part of the reason why we are so hesitant to say what we feel and actually mean it is because we tend to say things without thinking or we care too much about everyone else’s reaction. We spend countless hours thinking about how we are viewed by society and how we can fit into the “perfect image” of what’s trending or cool and that’s when we lose a sense of who we actually are. We lose a sense of all of our little quirks and weirdness that make up who we really are. The real real.

During my twenty-five years on this beautiful earth, I’ve learned a few important things. A few things that have shaped my perspective of the world and the people in it. For one, nothing is done the way you want unless you do it yourself. We tend to make excuses for why we don’t get things done but we continue to sit on our asses waiting for it to happen by someone else. TRUST ME if you do this, you’re going to be waiting a long time unless you get up and get after it. The energy that is behind someone who actually has passion for something vs. the energy behind someone who is just doing something to do it is uncomparable.

Photo: @t_reel_

Next up, I learned that it’s v important to be vocal about what you want and what you don’t want. Like anything in life, if you want to control something, you need to be the driver. You need to be true to yourself and actually speak up and ask. Sometimes I feel like we get embarrassed and shy away from doing and asking for what we really want. Right now, in this moment, cut the shit and make a promise to yourself to get up and get after it. Ask for that raise at your job, ask for that second piece of cake (because duh), and one hundred percent ask your S.O or potential S.O what they are feeling and what they want. Because honestly, there’s no point in wasting your time or theirs. You only have one life to live and one opportunity to make something happen, so what are you waiting for?

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Lifestyle

A Day in The Life: Part I

There are 86,400 seconds in a day. 86,400 seconds to decide what you want to do, what you want to accomplish, and what you want to experience.

                     

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Lifestyle

Why Bagels Are Always, Always Worth It

If you know me IRL you know my (unhealthy) obsession for breakfast food or any food actually. Like any other person in this world, I find myself struggling between eating delicious food while still trying to look good. After college I started learning that my body started to react to food differently and my image started to change aka I needed to start working out (eye roll). My body wasn’t bouncing back as quickly as it used to and I decided to make a change. Through this journey, I have learned that my body is completely different than the girl next to me. On the outside we may look similar but its so much deeper than that. What may work for one person may not work for you and that is perfectly fine. At the end of your day it is your body and you need to be happy with how you look and feel. Disclaimer, I am by no means a health expert or fitness expert, I am simply a girl who who lives on a budget, loves cheese and bagels too much but still wants to look fit and toned. If you want to know a breakdown of what I’ve been doing, continue to read below 🙂

Some background context for you: (bullet form because I enjoy making lists)

  • In college I was known to never really workout but still maintained a “slim figure”. See photos below.

  • I drank 3-4 nights a week and pretty much ate whatever I wanted whenever I wanted which included BECS ( bacon egg and cheese ) on bagels or croissants 3-4 days a week. Don’t judge….they were/are so good.
  • I walked around A LOT, whether it was to/from my classes or apartment or commuting to the city for interning.

Fast forward to four years after college and it’s May 2014 and I just landed my first big girl job. My diet in terms of drinking and eating like crap decreased significantly due to my lifestyle but my physical activity level stayed the same. Fast forward another one and half years later, and I am working out 4-5 days of the week, completed my first sprint triathlon (HEY TRI CLUB), drinking 1-2 days a week ( can’t keep to shake that one off….), and not eating BECS every weekday ( we gotta start somewhere right?). What have I learned from this? It’s damn hard and doesn’t happen overnight.

Workouts I Do (This is a mock weekly schedule but essentially what my workouts look like week to week)

There are a couple of reasons why I choose to rotate between the same three workouts and it’s because I like the results that I have been getting. I was never one to love cardio or running on a treadmill, it actually makes me want to die (not literally). In order to get my cardio, I like to attend indoor cycling classes, this will get your heart rate up while still working out your whole body + I work part time at a spin studio so I may be a little biased. Due to me not loving cardio and not wanting a stick thin body, I began to take barre classes which is comprised of tiny movements that strengthen, lengthen, and tone your muscles. If you haven’t tried barre class then I’m not sure what you are waiting for! Barre classes are one of the most underrated workouts leaving your legs to be sore for days and you not being able to sit on the toilet #RealTalk. Lastly to round out my workouts I like to do a full body bootcamp that hits all points from intense cardio to weight lifting. When i started lifting weights about a year ago, I noticed that my body started to become stronger, toned, and have an overall athletic look…and I was digging it.

@anewyorkbagel

Overall, my workouts increased and now I have been focusing on my diet. As you can tell from the title of this blog post I LOVE bagels and carbs and all things bad for you which means that I will never ever cut that out of my diet. BUT, I have learned that everything in moderation is okay. I try to eat clean during the week and then reward myself on the weekends because a bagel once in a while doesn’t hurt anybody…am I right or am I right?

Let me know what your favorite workouts below are!

 

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Lifestyle, Misc., Reviews

Beach Waves Without the Beach

We all strive to have those perfect beach waves without having to try because lets be real we have no time and we’re all real lazy. If you’re like me and tend to have second day “dirty hair” then these hairstyles will be PERFECT for you. Follow along to find how to obtain these beachy waves without even going to the beach!

WHAT YOU NEED: (All can be found at HerStyler)

You can either start with damp hair OR second day hair. Either way I like to use Herstyler’s hair serum to close all my split ends so they’re ready for heat products. A dime size is perfect!

Tip- Start at the bottom of your hair and work your way to your roots so you don’t end up with oily hair.

Then you’ll want to section your hair. I like to do it in three layers.

After you section your hair. Start with one side of your head and take a small section of hair or big depending on what size curls you want. Remember to alternate curling towards and away from your face so it looks as natural as possible.

Tip: Face your curling iron tip downwards so the curl can naturally form.

AND LOOK IT CURLS! You only really have to hold it in place for about :10 especially with the Herstyler curlers, they curl so fast!

After you’ve reached your desired look, finish it off by spraying Herstyler’s styling spray to keep everything in place.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can also try these other looks after you’ve waved your hair!

TOP KNOT

SIDE PONY

LOOSE BRAIDS

Happy Styling xo!

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Relationships

But, do we really need to be friends?

The toughest part about a breakup is the aftermath. Yes, there may have been some pain during the breakup, but the actual breaking up part doesn’t usually take long. It is the ensuing months, weeks, or whatever it takes that is the real challenge.

Well, now that you just spilled all your emotions out onto the table– now what? Is this it, cold turkey, or are you going to go back-and-forth for a couple of months? Are you going to regrettably text them late at night when you’re drunk af, snap them occasionally and like their IG posts every once in awhile in a strategic manner? Are you going to hit them up to hang out? Are you going to pretend like this never happened for 3 months and continue to secretly hook up all to have it crash and burn and be cut like Dean from the Bachelorette?

We all are faced with two paths when we have a breakup. Either you cut ties and go your separate ways into the sunset living your best life OR you decide to “be friends”. (pause while my eyes instinctively roll) What exactly does “be friends” mean after you have been a constant fixture in someone’s life? After you have seen their bare body and emotions and they have seen yours? After you have shared intimate nights, dark secrets, and fond memories? Just because you miss them, does that mean you should stay friends with them? Unclear.

Cutting ties is never easy, trust me. Whether you were in a relationship for 3 months or 3 years, not talking to someone who was once a constant, is a struggle. Who the hell are you going to talk to about your favorite show or the fact that there are frozen margs at chipotle now? I’ll tell you who–your friends, family, or co-workers. We hold onto constants because it’s a comfort that we are used to and can rely on (for the most part). In most cases, your ex has only been a constant in your life for probably not even half of it. Who the heck got you through life the other half? Rely on those comforts to motive you.

If you decide to be friends with an ex, god bless you and LMK if that works. According to #RaeChowData aka friends of friends and their experiences this can be successful but is super rare. Staying friends with an ex can work if you are civil, respectful, and have suppressed all attraction. If you both aren’t on the same page, someone is def gonna get blue balls.

But, on a bigger note, ask yourself why you even want this friendship? Do you have kids, pets, or friends in common? Do you just want to hook-up with someone and also somehow have zero-to-no emotional attachment? Also is that previous comment even possible? Friendships take time to evolve and cannot be forced. If both parties of this new friendship have a common understanding of what is expected then it could possibly work.

If you are able to maintain a friendship built on maturity with clear boundaries, intentions and understanding, go for it. Typically the key to building this new type of relationship with your old fling will take time. Don’t expect to be scheduling non-cuddling movie dates right after you break up. Be sure to take time to heal, let go of any aggression and find yourself as an individual again. Getting out of couple mentality takes time to get used to. Your brain interpreted life for two and now you get to focus on numero uno, yourself. ( The best in my opinion). Cherish being independent (and even being a little selfish with your time), as this will only strengthen you as a person, your future relationships and your chances of “being friends” with your ex. Or at least being civil.

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So You’re An ABC…?

So if you’ve been reading my blog for a while some time or from the beginning (shoutout to those who are loyal AF or my roommates) then you know that I tend to write about raw things including relationships, love, careers, life, boys, etc. Topics that are always discussed behind closed doors or only with your closest friends. Now, you may be wondering is that all you write about? Why don’t you ever write about fashion, beauty or something other than how being a twenty-something-year-old is v difficult. Well to be honest, 1. I rarely wear makeup so you probably wouldn’t want beauty advice from me and 2. Fashion is something I love but so far have only taken it as far as my OOTD on my snaps (rmcx220) and 3. Because I am a twenty something year old who is still struggling with how to survive in the big apple so why not share the struggle with you guys?

I enjoy writing things that are relevant to my life. Much of my inspiration stems from things in my life or things that happen to the people in my life. So lucky for you, this post is about my life as an ABC. I hope you’re thinking, what the hell is an ABC? Don’t worry, it’s just getting good.

An “ABC” is an American Born Chinese- literally word for word. It is a person who is of Chinese descent but grew up in America. A “banana” if you will (yellow on the outside but white in the inside). Now most ABC’s often come to a crossroad in their early teen life of whether or not they choose to take the path to become fully immersed into the Chinese culture or to play into the “white” culture they are surrounded by. This decision first came to me when I was in middle school. This is when I began to realize that not everyone ate with chopsticks or even had white rice with EVERY meal. This also is when I realized I didn’t have to take my shoes off every time I entered a household. I was shocked that not everyone had a basket full of slippers in their doorway, like in my household.

Growing up in a predominately white community, I really only had white friends but to me that was normal. As a young, shy, asian girl I didn’t really understand the difference between races or skin color. I assumed that we were all the same. Racism isn’t just about being white or black, it’s so much more than that. My parents had my siblings and I attend Chinese school from a very young age AND they even put us in cultural dancing lessons. (Let’s just say they are very proud of being Chinese, as they should be).

Although Chinese culture has always been a positive part of my life, I’ve also struggled with it. Growing up, I’ve always had teachers speak about different cultures, religions, and people during class. They would always talk about how blacks and whites were portrayed in the media and in the world — but what about Asians, Hispanics, and Middle Easterners? Their answer? “They tend to be a model minority”. Now, don’t get me wrong I was always flattered when kids in school would ask me what I got on my test or if I wanted to be in their group. Ignorant young Rae thought that they actually just liked her or wanted to be friends with her. Not ever did I think it was because of my race and that the Asian race is deemed to be smart.

I’m not going to lie, of course it was nice to have that persona where others thought I was intellectual– but in actuality that came with whole lot of pressure. I didn’t want to live up to that stereotype. I didn’t want to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer. I wanted to be on TV and in a creative space. I dreamed of making videos, writing blog posts, and producing creative content. That’s when the pressure really started to escalate.

Of course there are pressures among any race, but since I am Asian I’ll just speak to that. I’ve come to the conclusion that Asian American is just another race in our world who is also facing the same struggles as any other. At this stage I am proud to be Chinese AND American. I’m not going to apologize for the way Asians travel in packs or how fragrant their food smells ( which honestly is bomb so def no apologies here). I have learned so many things from both cultures which shapes who I am today. The Chinese culture has taught me to be selfless, respect elders, and to be open and loving towards others. The American culture has taught me to be hardworking and to fight for your dreams. It’s impossible to get anywhere in this world without putting work in and wanting to put work in.

As I’ve grown older, I’ve been able to appreciate the eccentricities of my culture. I love being able to share my culture with my friends of other backgrounds (hit me up if you want to learn how to properly eat dim sum at the best hole-in-the-wall in New York). Instead of hiding my cultural differences, I’ve learned to embrace and even showcase them. We all have struggle and this is one close to heart for me, so thanks for taking the time to understand where I’ve come from and how my struggle has influenced the woman I am today.

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Hey, what’s your number?

As I sit on this 8 hour plane ride traveling to ~paradise~, I decide to venture into #RaeChowDayDreams and explore the concept of double standards. Now, you may think why the f is this your first thought when on a plane ride to ~paradise~? Still unclear to me but here we are. For those of you who don’t know what a double standard is or for those of you who think you know but are still unclear, it is

a rule or principle that is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups.

A perfect example explaining this phenomenon is the concept of men and women and their “number”. Meaning, if a woman has a high number* she is thought of as a slut or easy. However, if a man has a high number he is known as “da man.” Let’s just take a moment for that to sink in. How the heck is this OK by any means?.

Cue blog post about feminism (just kidding).

A few days ago, I had sent a survey to some of my friends, co-workers, and family members and had them send it to their friends, co-workers, and family members all so I could get a huge sum of data all stemming from the concept of one’s “number”. No, I don’t mean your phone number, I mean your ~number~. Ya know, the number of people you have been with…sexually. The number of people you have slept with over your time of being sexually active. The people who answered this survey were of all different ages, races, and demographics. To my surprise, the data was pretty conclusive in that both men and women thought that honesty was the best policy when it came to disclosing their number. (I knew that policy was important when they first implemented it in first grade!). Most people’s reasoning was because of health & safety concerns with a partner.

Now a visual from the survey ( please ignore the green dot, I do have a lot of fans)

How many of you gals have been in a situation where it was your first time with a guy and he “claimed” he had no condoms or that he just “doesn’t like to use them” or that “it’s fine”? Or (a crowd fav) when the guy flips it to you and asks if you are on the pill. Sorry hun, for once this is about you and not me. Insider tip to you guys– just because a girl is on the pill, doesn’t mean it’s a free pass to be a free willy. Please learn how science & your body works and be a little more cautious and responsible like you claim to be.

I think it’s funny how the modern dating world still views someone’s number as a double standard. If a woman chose to sleep with 10 people in her 10 years of being sexually active is it that bad? That’s like one person for every year! If a man slept with 10 people in his 10 years of being sexually active he would be ridiculed, and that’s not right either. Why is it that society stigmatizes someone’s number based on one’s gender? At the end of the day, we are all human. We have the same desires, needs, and wants. We are all given the same decision to make at 2AM after a long night of partying and honestly, what or who that decision includes is no one’s business but your own. Whether you choose to stay on the conservative side of things or if you like to test the lines, you do you. At the end of the day, your number is irrelevant. What matters is that you’re not gambling with those numbers.

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Lifestyle, Relationships

Stop Doing What You Know

It’s been three years since I’ve graduated college and about a year of living on my own in the big apple. Through these post college years I’ve gone through a lot– new job, new friends, new relationships, and a new living situation. I’ve learned that things either workout for a reason or they don’t because that’s not what life intended. I’ve learned that people will 100% let you down and you will feel like crap but then other people will surprise you completely and maybe even sweep you off your feet. All I’m trying to say is, we’re in our twenties and this adventure is about to go down and the best part is WE get to decide how it goes.

You have the wheel and you can decide what you do with your spare time and who you spend it with. You decide if you want to sit on your couch eating doritos or go for a 3mi run… (lolz never the latter).

As I was sipping on my 3rd iced coffee during my midday walk,I started going into #RaeChowDayDreams ~ cue transition music~ The way we carry ourselves throughout our life and the game time decisions we make all lead us to different paths and scenarios. I find that most people tend to live a life “within their lane”. Meaning- we tend to gravitate towards things that we know and spend time with people we know. We would rather take a workout class we know we would excel in rather than making a fool ourselves in a class that is challenging. If we’re posted up at a bar, we would most likely gravitate towards our friends instead of branching out and talking to someone across the bar we’ve been making the ~eyez~ with. See the below image for how to make the ~eyez~

It’s super natural for human beings to want to feel comfortable in their everyday lives. But tbh that gets boring real quick, or at least I think so. So this is an ode to stepping out of your lane and doing something different. Try talking to someone when you’re on the coffee line or walking to work. Sign up for an improv class or club sports team. Put yourself out there because if you don’t you’ll be staying in your lane, interacting with the same people and having the same outcomes. This is an ode to yourself, because what’s the worst that can happen?

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Lifestyle, Misc.

A Reply to: 25 Things I Still Don’t Understand at 25

To those of you who actually know me IRL you probably have had the pleasure of meeting my mother, Patty aka Prez Pat. Also, who am I kidding anyone who read this blog is friends/family (hey y’all). Anyways, one of the best things about my mom is that we are best friends even though she lives 3,000 miles away. What’s even better is that she is actually pretty avid on social media and keeping up with me and my 3 brothers via social media. When she read my most recent post, 25 things I still Don’t Understand at 25 she had the best reply. Her responses are in bold. Also, LOL to the face that some of these were taken literal!

As I near the halfway point of my 25th year of life on this beautiful earth, I sit here during work (oops) thinking damn, I still don’t know shit. I’d like to think that during my 25 short years I have learned a thing or two- mainly how to still function at work while being terribly hungover and learning how to cook rice in a pot (sorry for growing up with a rice cooker #asianparents) However, there is still a ton I don’t know- so why not list them out? If you have more- feel free to comment them below!

  1. WTF is a deductible? Min payt. By insured before actual benefits paid by insurance company
  2. Is global warming a real thing…? And should we be worried? Yes it is real, but don’t worry about it
  3. People who don’t know how to balance hanging out their friends and their significant other Actually an unconscious choice being made which makes it seem unbalanced.
  4. Investments, stocks, all things money. *Cue Finance Boyfriend RN* Need to learn basics or have a good accountant friend you trust.
  5. How much water am I supposed to be drinking so I can be ~healthy~ ? At least 8 glasses per day
  6. How to let go of someone whole heartedly? Cut off social media
  7. Taxes (Get a tax accountant/attorney you trust)
  8. How to never, ever get the Sunday Scaries (What is SundayScaries?)
  9. How to say no..or yes to things Only way is via trial and error, basically life experiences…
  10. How to casually talk to the opposite sex without having to expect something or give something. That is only in a perfect world and idealist thinking…just do the best you can..
  11. Why wine makes you sleepy drunk? (Alcohol is a depressant, makes your body tired)
  12. Why you have to go to the airport two hours before any flight.  TSA and traffic but in smaller airports probably do not need)
  13. How to wear heels and not get blisters. Another myth, heels will cause blisters and women suffer
  14. Men. Are from Mars so wont be able to understand, just accept
  15. What exactly is credit? You are a good risk because you will pay off money lent to you
  16. The difference between tylenol and Advil? Tylenol is an Acetaminophen. Acetaminophen works through the liver. It raises the pain threshold so it’s pretty much just trying to numb yourself to the pain. It also targets the part of the brain that regulates the body temperature by telling the body to get cooler. Advil is an Ibuprofen. Ibuprofen reduces hormones that cause pain and inflammation (swelling). It’s in a family of drugs that blocks specific enzymes involved in the inflammation process. A major side effect of Ibuprofen is the harmful effect on people’s stomach linings. It’s great for reducing swelling and thinning the blood for the immediate treatment of heart attack (at that moment). Prolonged overuse of ibuprofen can CAUSE heart problems. 
  17. When it says “dry clean only” do they really mean dry clean only? YES
  18. How daylight savings actually works Daylight Saving Time (DST) is the practice of setting the clocks forward 1 hour from standard time during the summer months, and back again in the fall, in order to make better use of natural daylight.
  19. How to thank your parents for everything (TYSM Pat & Lars). Be nice to them and call them to tell them about your life and spend time with them… haha
  20. How your mom is always right! Years of practicing and learning from trail and error in life aka from raising kids, reading books also helps
  21. Damn proofs *cue 10th grade algebra/geometry* If you graduated from HS then you probably wont need to know again until your kids ask you..
  22. How to make your best friend feel better when her world falls apart. Let her talk and just listen then tell her when one door shuts another one opens…everything looks better the next morning…
  23. How I forgave you. Time heals and allows you to learn to forgive
  24. Why people are just not nice. Bad luck in life and coping by being mean
  25. How to actually “adult”. No magic, one day you realize it happens probably when you are mentoring a kid/tween/young adult and it feels good you are able to mentor

This was amazing to read and fun to respond….you are already adulting pretty well, enjoy the learning experiences of life.Wise beyond your years.HAHA 

Love mom

Mom, you are the true number 1.

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